There is a room in Milwaukee where you don't have to explain yourself.
We are people who could not stop our sexual behavior on our own, and who found that we could stop together. You can come as you are, say nothing, give no last name, and leave when you want.
The Pass-It-On Club, basement level
6229 W. Forest Home Ave.
Milwaukee, WI 53220
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Your first meeting needs to be in person. After that you may attend in person, by Zoom, or by call-in.
Is this you?
There is no test that makes someone a sex addict, and no amount or kind of behavior that settles it. The question is simpler and harder: have you tried to stop, and found that you couldn't?
Some of what people here recognized in themselves before they walked in:
- You've promised yourself you were done — and meant it — more than once.
- Hours disappear into looking, planning, or chasing, and you can't get them back.
- The behavior costs you money, sleep, work, or people you love, and it continues anyway.
- You keep a version of your life that no one else is allowed to see.
- What used to be enough isn't anymore.
- You feel remorse afterward, and it doesn't stop the next time.
If several of those landed, you are in the same place most of us started. Nothing here asks you to accept a label. Come to a meeting and listen.
What happens when you walk in
Most people say the hardest part was the parking lot. Here is what is waiting on the other side of the door, so it isn't a mystery.
The room is set up the same way every week: chairs in a circle, one of them open.
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You come in and sit down
Enter the Pass-It-On Club and take the stairs to the basement. Come a few minutes early or a few minutes late — either is fine. Nobody will ask who you are.
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You give a first name, or nothing at all
First names only. No sign-in sheet, no registration, no records. Newcomers are welcomed briefly and then left alone unless they want otherwise.
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You listen
Someone reads from SAA literature, and members take turns talking about their own experience. No one is cross-talked, advised, or corrected. You are never required to speak, and "I'll pass" is a complete answer.
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You leave in about an hour
A basket goes around for the room's expenses. Put in nothing if you'd rather — there are no dues or fees, and no one watches. Afterward you can stay and talk, or go straight to your car. Once you've come in person, you can join later meetings by Zoom or call-in.
You don't need to be sober, certain, or ready to come to a meeting. Coming is the only requirement.
How sobriety gets defined here
SAA doesn't tell you what your sobriety is. You define it yourself, usually with a sponsor, using a tool called the three circles.
In the inner circle go the behaviors you're stopping — the ones that brought you here. The middle circle holds what leads you there: the routes, the moods, the situations. The outer circle is the life you're building instead, the things that keep you well. Members work out their own three circles over time. Nobody hands you a list.
Anonymity is the whole foundation
What you say in the room and who you see in the room stays there. That isn't a courtesy. It is the condition that makes the rest possible.
We are a fellowship of members, not an institution. There is no staff, no counseling, no treatment, no leadership with authority over anyone. Meetings are run by members who volunteer, and paid for by what members choose to put in the basket. We are not affiliated with any church, clinic, or program, and we don't take outside money.
Our purpose is narrow on purpose: to stop our own addictive sexual behavior and to help others recover from theirs.
If you're the partner or family of someone here
What happened to you is real, and it deserves its own support — not a seat in the back of his meeting.
Our meetings are closed to spouses, partners, and family members. It isn't a judgment about you. Members can only be honest in that room if the people affected by what they say aren't in it, and your own healing needs a space where you are the one being heard rather than the subject of someone else's inventory.
There are fellowships and therapists in the Milwaukee area for partners of sex addicts. Email us and we'll point you toward them. A referral to a CSAT-trained therapist is available on request — mention SAA when you call.
Reading and other meetings
A brochure you can print
Everything on this page — times, location, what to expect — folded small enough to hand to someone.
Two pages, prints on letter paper, folds in thirds. Leave a stack at the club, in a waiting room, or with a therapist who sees people who need us. Keep one in the glove box for the night you can't remember why you were going to stop.
Write to us
A member reads this inbox. You don't have to sign your name, and you won't be added to anything.
Questions about a first meeting, directions, whether this is the right fellowship for what you're dealing with, or resources for a partner — all fine.